Have you ever know someone who has the fear of commitment? I have several friends who have the symptoms of this kind of phobia. Most of them are men. They cannot decide on simple things. They find it hard to choose on what to eat during a dine-out in a restaurant, they can’t choose between two good movies, even on what to wear. And worst no one of them has ever been to serious relationships, considering the fact that they are already in their 30’s and is an ideal marrying age for men.
Let me tell you about my friend named Patrick. He is one of my closest friends and he is a bachelor who makes good money. Girls are coming in and out of his life like the wind. And nobody seems to last even the ones that I think would last. I suspected that he has fear of commitment. But he won’t accept it, which in fact is another characteristic of a person who has a fear of commitment. We had a conversation about it once. Here it goes:
Me: “Have you ever been to a serious relationship before?
Patrick: “Nope.” Re replied.
Patrick: “It’s because I’m not ready yet.”
Me: “What are the things that made you not ready? I asked again.
He simply shrugged his shoulders and paused.
Patrick: “It is simply because I’m afraid to commit to a woman, and I don’t want to get married at this time. I’m afraid that I may not handle the responsibilities of a father and a husband at the same time.”
Me: “Then you are one of those who are afraid of commitments or the fear of commitment.”
Patrick: “Am I? I don’t think so…”
Fear of commitment makes it hard for you to decide on whatever you need to decide on especially if the future is at stake. Therefore, having a fear of commitment is not healthy at all. Fear of commitment can really hold you back because it is only be entrusting to a procedure that life has to offer and we are able to make the most of opportunities that come our way.
Fear of commitment can be triggered by various causes. Fear of commitment may start from childhood from which a person suffered from traumatic experience, such as separation of parents, divorce, and death. Fear of commitment can also be a result of poor role models in which the person may have witnessed offensive relationships. And worst the person may have been a victim of it. These experiences have a great impact on the person’s decision making and therefore the cause of development of their fear of commitment.
Fear of Commitment though can be defeated by different methods. The most common method used in overcoming fear of Commitment is the hypnosis or hypnotherapy. So if you have friends who are suffering from a commitment phobia or fear of commitment, help them defeat it.
Thursday, May 23, 2013