More than eighty percent of Americans consider themselves to be Christian and yet a large percentage of Christian singles don't know how to meet other Christian singles. Some people try to meet Christian singles only through church, which can be limiting. On the other hand, some people are trying to meet Christian singles everywhere they go and finding that many people are turned off by approaching a new relationship from a religious standpoint. The way to meet Christian singles is to find a balance between these two ends of the spectrum.
In order to find Christian singles, you have to be open to meeting them in a range of appropriate places. If you are only trying to meet other Christian singles at church, you are limiting yourself to the small, select pool of people who attend your church and the even smaller number of people who attend church social activities. Many people who attend church are in committed relationships and church is a family activity for them. You might be able to make friends with other Christian singles here but the likelihood of meeting other Christian singles here is slim.
At the same time, you are not likely to meet Christian singles at the local bar, the latest rave party or the nude beach. Many Christians associate with a wide range of people and enjoy a number of different activities and end up getting swept into modern traditional forms of dating. Often, this type of dating involves alcohol and overt sexuality. Even if you are able to find Christian singles in such an environment, you may find that your religious foundation is a turn-off and they will back away. You may also find that if you see Christian singles in such places, your relationship may be rocky as a result of conflicting moral values held by both parties.
In order to mingle with Christian singles that share your faith but aren't just hanging out at church all day, you need to expose yourself to a variety of situations in which you will bump into Christian singles. One way to meet Christian singles is to vary your church attendance. You will still want to participate actively in your church but you might want to regularly attend services at a second church. Additionally, you can encourage your church groups to plan mingling and volunteer events with other churches so Christian singles can talk with other Christian singles while contributing to the community.
You should also be open to the opportunity to meet Christian singles in other areas of your life. You can find Christian singles at the local library, sporting events, coffee shops, poetry readings, theater events and shopping malls. In order to locate Christian singles in such places, you need to be willing to put yourself out there, starting up conversations with people in public places. You don't need to share right away that you are seeking Christian singles, nor do you need to place emphasis on your faith, as this might hinder conversation initially. Instead, start with general conversation and use social clues to include religion into the conversation at appropriate times. In this way, you will meet Christian singles with a variety of interests, forming friendships and relationships easier than ever before.
Friday, May 24, 2013